Dr. Borba’s 10 C’s OF CRITICAL CHANGE

Parenting Advice, Character Education, Teacher Resources, Moral Development and Behavior Strategies to Educate Children's Hearts and Souls

No More Misbehavin'
38 Difficult Behaviors and How to Stop Them
Dr. Michele Borba, can offer insight and a wealth of practical tips for the following topics and more.
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Dr. Borba’s 10 C’s OF CRITICAL CHANGE
The Ten Best Kept Parent Secrets for Stopping Any Bad Behavior

Connect calmly with your child. Any behavior makeover must start by calmly addressing the child. Eliminate any distractions, take a breath to in control, get eye-to-eye, and make sure you have your kid’s full attention. Then you can begin.

Clarify your concerns. Don’t assume your child understands what he did wrong. Briefly describe the problem, why it troubles you, and what you behavior you expect instead. “When you used that tone, it was disrespectful. I expect you to talk respectfully.”

Commit together to work on the problem. Emphasize your commitment to work with your kid to help him change. Ideally, you need to be on the same team to succeed.

Coach a new behavior to replace the inappropriate behavior so he knows how to successfully use it. For instance: don’t assume your kid knows how you want him to talk. The whine may have become such a habit, he forgot. “I don’t listen to whines. Listen to how my voice sounds. It’s how I want you to ask for something. Now you try it.”

Correct misbehavior as soon as it occurs. Don’t wait—the moment your kid uses an inappropriate behavior is the time to correct it. Behavior corrections are brief and describe to the kid what he did wrong, and show how to correct the action. “I know you were angry, but you may not hit. Next time, tell the person that you are mad and what you want.”

Check your kid’s progress as you continue the makeover. Alter your plan if needed.

Choose a consequence if the misbehavior continues. It should be reasonable, be appropriate to the child and crime, and be announced ahead: “If you bite again, you will to go to time out for five minutes.”

Carry-out the agreed consequence. In the event there’s no change or opposition to the behavior makeover, follow-through with the agreed consequence. And do so consistently.

Catch your kid’s good behavior efforts. Don’t overlook the simplest and often most effective way to change behavior. “That was a respectful voice. That’s the kind I listen to. Good job!”

Congratulate your kid’s success whenever positive results are confirmed. Change is hard—especially for kids--so celebrate his efforts. And don’t forget to congratulate yourself!

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About The Author:

Michele Borba, Ed.D., has worked with more than 750,000 parents and teachers over more than two decades. A dynamic and highly sought-after speaker, she has presented hundreds of keynote addresses and workshops throughout North America, Europe, Asia, and the South Pacific on enhancing children’s character development, self-esteem, achievement, and behavior. Her down-to-earth speaking style, inspirational stories, and practical strategies appeal to audiences worldwide.

Borba is the author of eighteen books for parents and educators, including Building Moral Intelligence, selected by Amazon.com as “one of the top ten parenting books of the year,” and cited by Publisher’s Weekly as “one of the most noteworthy of 2001”; Parents Do Make a Difference, selected by Child Magazine as an “outstanding parenting book of 1999”; and Esteem Builders, used by over 1.5 million students worldwide.

Borba appears as a frequent guest expert on television and National Public Radio talk shows, including The View, Fox & Friends, The Parent Table, and The Jenny Jones Show, and has been interviewed in numerous publications, including Newsweek, Parents, Redbook, First for Women, Family Life, Working Mother, the Chicago Tribune, the Los Angeles Times, and the New York Daily News, and serves as a columnist for Oxygen Media and as honorary advisory board member for Parents magazine. Her numerous awards include the National Educator Award, presented by the National Council of Self-Esteem.

Borba and her husband were partners in a private practice for troubled children and adolescents in Campbell, California. She received her doctorate in educational psychology and counseling from the University of San Francisco, her M.A. in learning disabilities, and her B.A. from the University of Santa Clara.

To contact Borba regarding her work or her media availability, or to schedule a keynote or workshop for your organization, go to www.MicheleBorba.com or www.moralintelligence.com. Her work can also be reviewed at www.parentingbookmark.com.